Waiting, Trusting, Surrendering. When Answers Don't Come

Our first daughter came into the world through pain and difficulty — a foreshadowing of the journey ahead. As the years unfolded, it became clear we were navigating a path we never anticipated: Kait's silent, often unreachable world of profound autism.

We gave everything — prayer, therapy, countless hours with specialists. Decades passed, and despite trying every method we could find, including intensive behavioral therapies, Kait remained silent. Most days, to get even a simple "yes" or "no" was a victory. She was trapped in a world of her own. And yet, we clung to the belief that God was good.

As Kait approached adulthood, new fears surfaced. Would we ever find a place where she could live safely and be truly loved and understood? Every option we pursued ended in closed doors or dead ends. We wrestled with grief, disappointment, and the quiet ache of dreams delayed.

Hope, at times, felt like a far-off whisper. And still — we waited. We prayed. We trusted that God's good plan for Kait was not forgotten.

This is where surrender enters in.

urrender is not passive. It is not giving up. Surrender is the quiet, active trust that even when we cannot see a way, God is making one. It is the choice to lay down our expectations and receive peace in exchange. Not because we understand — but because we know the One who does.

The temptation often comes when we can't see a way, and surrender starts to feel futile. In those moments, we're drawn to take back control — to write our own ending rather than wait for His. I know the futility of that path all too well. Yet in His grace, God gently redirected us.

Even in the silence, He was working for Kait.

And then — as only God can — His answer came out of nowhere, out of nothing. That's His way. He takes what seems like nothing and makes it into something beautiful. As Romans 4:17-18 says, He calls into being things that were not.

Recently, while meeting with Kait's case manager, a simple question led to an unexpected connection: a new residential provider. He had space available and invited us to visit. We were stunned.

We met a man of faith — someone open to possibilities, someone who saw Kait not as a burden but as a gift. Within two weeks, everything was in motion. A plan was in place, and Kait was moving into a beautiful home — just five blocks from ours.

Only God.

He saw what we couldn't. He moved when we thought things were standing still. He answered in a way we could never have imagined — quietly, perfectly, and right on time.

Be still before the Lord and wait patiently for Him. Psalm 37:7 (NIV)